Saturday, March 19, 2011

Good news, and some absolutely gawd-awful crap news.

Well, there's good news, and there's bad news.
The good news is that I've already started on the A-Z challenge. Last year, it was a lot to do every night, and getting ahead of the game seems to be a good idea.

Sadly, the bad news abounded last week. After two visits to the hospital last Monday, Andrea miscarried. I guess that's why it's often said that one shouldn't announce a pregnancy until the three-month mark, but I'm sure you get how I was excited to share the news. The bigger problem is that I shared it a lot at work. When the pregnancy ended, I wasn't in a mood to discuss it, so I only told a few close friends. I just wasn't in the mood for a lot of “there, there”'s and platitudes. I only got those from one person. God love her, she was only trying to help. It got a little awkward when people would ask how it was going, and I had to tell them.

Something came into sharp focus – something I had no9ticed before, but had forgotten. People who complain a lot tend to have irritations. When I'm in traffic, I cuss and carry on like I'd lost my car in a game of poker. A serious problem tends to put it all in perspective. If a customer wants to be a dick because I'm in the service industry and they can get away with it through the holy rite of spending money, it still bugs me, but it's a lot easier to brush off now.

Has anyone else noticed that some serious shit has been happening lately? Asides from the REALLY serious shit in Egypt, Libya and Japan, a lot of large-caliber issues seem to be happening in the lives of individuals. Or is it just my imagination...


  1. I feel sorry for you and your wife. Been there---it SUCKS! A lot of terrible things are happening all over the world. But I'm a complaining pessimist and lots of my perky friends see really good things going on--go figure.

  2. Will, I am so sorry for Andrea and your loss. I know those words aren't much right now, but please know they are sincere.

    As for shit going on, yes, I have noticed. It's been a shitstorm in my family since December with it coming to a head this past week.

    Healing to you and Andrea my friend.

  3. Sorry for your loss, Will.
    Things have been normal in my neck of the woods. Better stay that way.

  4. I am so sorry for your wife and you about the baby, I had three miscaarriages after my third was born so know exactly what you must be going through. I know this may seem irrelevant but am sincere with how I feel.

    As for Shit going on that there Will is a sore point, I have three children.....all scattered about but it seems I have to be the one who phones them to see how they and the grandchildren are keeping, well I have had enough, I have health issues and would love to be able to talk to them but that's the way the cookie crumbles. My family are the most important thing in my life, they have their own lives but once in a while would love a hug or a visit from them.

    I have just 4 more poems to write for the A to Z CHALLENGE as I want to be more prepared than last,

    Kind regards to the family.

  5. So very sorry to hear this news. And you are exactly right in saying how something really sad like having a miscarriage can make minor problems insignificant.

  6. Yes, I've noticed some serious stuff going on as well. My cousin (and really close friend) miscarried this week too. I'm so sorry for your loss.

    It's hard to know what to say when a person loses a loved one. The only thing I could do was give my girl a big hug and cry with her. Then we threw in some ZZ TOP, got out our air guitars and sang at the top of our lungs. Didn't make it better, but it sure helped.

  7. I am so sorry for your loss. Do be gentle with yourselves and allow yourselves time to mourn. And yes, so much of the stuff we stress over just fades into trivial when we are faced with personal or international tragedies.

  8. That really is the worst news. I'm so sorry for your loss.

  9. Avoiding platitudes at all costs, I can say I honestly feel for you, sir. And yes, it does seem like things are coming to a head globally as well as locally and personally.

    Not nearly as important, but kudos on organizing your A to Z posts early. This is my first year participating, and I've tried to do the same. We'll see how it goes.

  10. Sorry about the bad news--a loss like that is tough to deal with.

    As far as my life everything continues to stay pretty much the same which is probably neither extraordinarily good nor bad. It just is. Hopefully an income producing situation will arise before all of my money runs out.

    But things could always be worse, eh?

    Tossing It Out

  11. I'm sorry you and your wife are having to go through that.

    As far as generalised crap is concerned, there does seem to be a lot of it around, at least for me and various people I know. So far, 2011 is something of a wringer...

  12. Hi Will .. gosh that's so difficult to deal with .. my thoughts are with Andrea particularly and you obviously ..

    The little monkey will be having all your time for a while yet .. but much luck and happiness for the future .. the family will expand - thinking of you - Hilary

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  14. I'm very sorry for your loss, this is a very tough time for you and your wife.
    Found you from the A-Z Challenge, it sounds like it’s going to be so much fun and I can’t wait to get started!! I’m now following your blog on GFC and I hope you have a chance to check out my blog and maybe follow me back!!